Reciprocity Matters: Learning to Steward What God Has Given Me

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  There was a time in my life when I gave freely without much thought about whether that giving was being reciprocated. I showed up for people. I listened. I encouraged. I supported. I poured into friendships and relationships because that was simply who I was. But over time, I began to notice a pattern. I was often the one reaching out. I was often the one checking in. I was often the one giving, encouraging, helping, and investing. While there is nothing wrong with being generous, I eventually realized that constantly pouring without being replenished comes at a cost. Reciprocity matters. Healthy relationships are not about keeping score. They are not transactional. They are built on mutual care, respect, and investment. Both people contribute. Both people make an effort. Both people value the relationship enough to nurture it. When only one person is invested, the relationship becomes unbalanced. For many years, I continued giving even when I received very little in return. Part...

You Are Your Only Competition👀


 

  I used to look up to many different women, embracing the parts I admired—grace, strength, confidence—trying to mold myself into something I thought I was supposed to be. I didn’t grow up knowing how to be “ladylike.” I was a tomboy from around 10 to 17, dressing like a boy because it made me feel safer. More invisible. More protected.

I was one of the guys—not because I was into girls, but because I liked the energy. There was less drama, less competition. They weren’t sizing each other up the way I saw some girls do. And now, when I see men competing with women, something inside me says, “This is backwards.”

Competition has long been expected from women—whether for attention, validation, or status. But I never understood that. Why aren’t we working together? Empowering and supporting each other? Why the jealousy? What are we fighting for, really?

Unless someone challenges you, why compete at all? Are you trying to prove something to someone who probably doesn’t even care?

If you want to compete, compete with yourself.
Try to be better than who you were yesterday.
And if you feel the urge to impress someone,
Try impressing God—the only One whose opinion truly matters.

 

 


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