Learning to Feel Safe, Steady, & Strong Again

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Life has a way of stretching us thin. Between daily responsibilities, past hurts, and ongoing pressures, many of us find ourselves at the point of no capacity — running on empty, unable to handle even the smallest stresses. But here’s the truth: capacity can be rebuilt. Just like a muscle, with care, practice, and consistency, your emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual reserves can grow stronger. This is your Capacity Recovery Roadmap — a simple four-phase journey to help you go from survival mode to a life that feels steady, spacious, and strong. This is the entry point to increasing capacity. You can’t strengthen what you don’t first acknowledge. Why it matters: If you don’t know when you’re nearing overload, you’ll push past it, leading to shutdown or burnout. How to practice: Daily check-in: Pause 2–3 times a day and ask: What’s draining me right now? What’s feeding me? Energy rating: Score yourself 1–10 in emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual energy. Th...

You Are Your Only Competition👀


 

  I used to look up to many different women, embracing the parts I admired—grace, strength, confidence—trying to mold myself into something I thought I was supposed to be. I didn’t grow up knowing how to be “ladylike.” I was a tomboy from around 10 to 17, dressing like a boy because it made me feel safer. More invisible. More protected.

I was one of the guys—not because I was into girls, but because I liked the energy. There was less drama, less competition. They weren’t sizing each other up the way I saw some girls do. And now, when I see men competing with women, something inside me says, “This is backwards.”

Competition has long been expected from women—whether for attention, validation, or status. But I never understood that. Why aren’t we working together? Empowering and supporting each other? Why the jealousy? What are we fighting for, really?

Unless someone challenges you, why compete at all? Are you trying to prove something to someone who probably doesn’t even care?

If you want to compete, compete with yourself.
Try to be better than who you were yesterday.
And if you feel the urge to impress someone,
Try impressing God—the only One whose opinion truly matters.

 

 


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