Beware Of Projections

Sometimes people are not transparent about what they are truly feeling. Instead of facing their own emotions, they project them onto others—claiming you feel what they themselves are unwilling to confront.

Since beginning my healing journey toward holistic wellness, I have become very intentional about what I hold onto and what I willingly release. One thing I know about myself is this: if I’m talking about it, I’m not holding it in. Healing has taught me the importance of honesty—first with myself, then with God.

Some people, however, have not yet chosen healing. Others may not even realize how unaware they are of their own inner state. When someone recently tried to tell me that I was holding grudges or harboring negative feelings in my heart, I disagreed internally. Not from pride—but from self-awareness.

Still, because I know I am not above reflection or correction, I took the moment seriously. I revisited and attempted to resolve a situation that had taken place earlier that same day. In doing so, I didn’t uncover bitterness—I uncovered clarity.

That moment confirmed what I already knew: discernment grows where healing is present. Sometimes clarity doesn’t come through avoidance, but through the willingness to pause, examine, and release what no longer belongs to you.

In other words: 

Knowing yourself helps a lot in this area of life.
Self-awareness protects you.

When you understand your own heart, your intentions, and your emotions, it becomes easier to recognize what actually belongs to you… and what doesn’t.

Some things people place on you are not truth — they are projection.

Discernment begins when you stop automatically accepting every accusation, feeling, or label and instead examine it with honesty and peace. Healing makes you honest, not defensive.

It’s similar to separating the wheat from the tares.
Not everything growing around you is meant to remain attached to you.

Clarity comes when you learn:
what to hold,
what to release,
and what was never yours in the first place.

Sometimes projection comes from people who are hurting, confused, or unaware of themselves. They may place feelings on you that never existed in you. If you don’t know yourself, you will start examining your heart for things that were never there.

But when you know who you are — and whose you are — you don’t panic at every accusation or interpretation. You pause. You bring it before God. You examine it honestly.

If it belongs to you, you repent.
If it doesn’t, you release it.

 

2 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.
→ Confusion and false guilt are not from God.

James 1:5
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God… and it will be given to him.
→ Discernment is a gift you can pray for daily.

Proverbs 4:23
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
→ You are allowed to protect your inner peace.